A few months before my husband and I tied the knot, we spoke with a pastor of the church we were planning on attending as a married couple. I was still living in Georgia, teaching and planning our wedding and hubby was living here and working so it was difficult to have any sort of pre-marital counseling. We thought we should at least talk to this pastor and get a few words of advice before the big day.
These are a few of the choice morsels we walked away with: 1. "Don't get married. It's a bad idea to mix cultures." (By the way, this pastor was American.) 2. "If you have to get married make sure you have a washing machine. I know of a couple who split up over that and the wife was American." 3. "My wife and I have never yelled or had any heated fights. We always stay up all night until things are resolved, so we never go to sleep angry."
We were definitely shaken by those words but decided to get married and defy the odds that were so highly stacked up against us, according to that guy. Here are a few things I've learned over the past ten years: 1. Whoever said they have never yelled or had a heated fight or stays up all night to talk things through every time there is a disagreement is a liar. 2. I'm very glad to have mixed cultures. It is definitely never dull around here. I'm glad to have two sweet little mocha-colored boys who are the best of both our worlds. 3. It's nice having a washing machine but I don't think that has saved my marriage. 4. Marriage is hard no matter what your circumstances are. If you want it to last you are always going against the odds. 5. I wouldn't trade my husband for anyone in the world. I have NO regrets.
We didn't last too long at that pastor's church. If I ever run into him again I don't know if I'd even want to talk to him but I would just like to smile and let him see me happily walk by with my husband and two gorgeous babies.